My 9 year old son and I started a nice night time dialogue of deliberate choice. This is where we talk about the things that challenge us, and then the strategy for what we will do and how cool it will be when the goals are met.
Intent is to create a positive expectation to practice becoming the person that feels happy and connected more than afraid and negative. Sometimes we feel an attachment to the limitation that keeps us romanticizing how difficult it is..
If what we think about, we tend to bring about, good or bad, it makes sense to focus on good more than bad. The purpose of meditation is to calm the mind to focus on feeling better. We talked about the difference between positive and negative thinking. Positive is connected to the logic that somewhere there is at least 3 solutions to any issue. Negative is shutting down, hiding, acting out or believing that this is the best we can do and that no solutions exist but to accept failure. Situations are not really so much positive or negative so much as how we choose to experience them.
CAN I CALM MY MIND FOR TO APPRECIATE COURAGE, FRIENDS, TRUST, and BLESSINGS?
So we came up with ideas to become more aware of our role in choosing amazing experiences. This does not mean denying a feeling that is negative, but it does mean being in touch with our feelings and visualizing more what we want to accomplish then what we might dread if the worst case scenario came to be.
USE CASE: WHAT IS HAPPENING THAT CAUSES YOU TO FEEL SAD, DEPRESSED OR FEARFUL: My son shared a fear that the neighbor boy who is now bullying him, who was once his friend, would make all his friends turn against him and he would be left alone and friendless.
Why do you feel your friends would turn against you if they stood to be bullied too? Lets explore and affirm what values you want to see in your friends and then make choices accordingly.
- What values do real friends embody?
- What do they do that is different to make them friends?
- What are some things you CAN do to stop feeling stuck?
- What can you do to choose a happier foundation for you and your friends to enjoy?
- Think you are having a good day?
- Think you are having a bad day?
- You are probably either right or about to make it so.
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