"There is something for everyone in this magnificant environment of wide diversity where we, as a people, can continue to take thought beyond that which it has been before."-- Well Being Cards by Esther and Jerry Hicks
This edition of "Hey, I never thought THAT about my work:
We forget how much of a role we play in our own happiness and productivity-- and how good it feels to be useful and appreciated for what we do. So often the "work" that we are responsible for gets overtaken by the more subtle day by day erosion of attitude. We forget that we can take positive actions regardless of who we are working with. We can influence behavior, both positively and negatively, and we can be open enough to see our role in continuing the good or bad. Sometimes our anger in OTHERS issues gets in the way of us becoming agents for tranforming out OWN issues.
If the workforce were a Diner, I would say.. "May I have another order of this special please?" I am working on a project with someone that is just a positive inspiration with the way they approach work. They have great thoughts and ideas, and working together, we come up with even better ideas than we would alone.. I like working with her because she has an uncommon creativity and vigor for creating improvements and breakthrough partnerships. Sure we talk about the negative issues, but really as a natural way of understanding the natural resistance and a more holistic approach to it's resolution. I think what I appreciate about this wonderful partner is the ability to see things both as they are and as they can be, and then take equal actions to create the positive model that we want to see in the world!
Failure is in! Interesting Harvard study suggesting "
Perfectionism is Out and Failure is In"-- that the notion of perfectionism actually gets in the way of success.. The issue is not striving for perfectionism so much as striving for impossible perfectionism to a degree where we have lost our ability to continuously learn and improve... Practical thinking..... the notion of failing our way to success--- being human enough to keep learning, growing, and living to be our best selves.
The two leading thoughts on this is the Kaizen notion of starting where you are and improving along the way.. This requires the ability of knowing where you are and where you aspire to be. The second thought on failure is that we have got to be more logical about how we review success or failure.
One of my best managers was a man who would give you very open feedback, and allow you to own your strengths and your weaknesses. My particular weakness at the time was my ability to appropriately assert myself even when my colleagues were behaving badly. Fortunately he did not put this weakness as a threat, but an opportunity. He allowed me to discuss the weakness, and the opportunity, and allowed me to fail my way to success. No punishment for failure that resulted in a new approach... only for failure to try again.
Stop it man, you're killing me. There is a difference between agressiveness and assertiveness, and both are NOT synonomous with true business success. Barb Fry authored a fascinating piece for the Halifax Chronicle Herald ran an article, "
Workplaces must do more than treat bullying symptoms." In a nutshell, too often workplaces will ignore the problems or brush the issue of bullying off as a personality, overlooking the larger damage to organizational problems of not creating an environment where people feel respected and able to collaborate and be a part of an organization where they can work productively with more productive attitude, outlook and contributions.
Bullying happens at an individual level as a means of attention seeking or self preservation in regards to a particular threat. This is not meant to excuse bad behavior but to offer some alternative ways of approaching it than just ignoring it or resenting the person behaving badly.
Sometimes it helps when dealing with bullies to recognize the part of them that feels the need to behave in this matter and confronting it directly. Identify what you are observing, trying to recent on positive intention, and move beyond the issue. Also it is important to remember that you are NOT the person's anger, but you are at that moment the recipient of their resistance. You and they can move beyond this and create a productive work experience.
Hey this is real...Free University of Berlin has introduced PTED as a frequent disorder ?? Ian Gillespie of the London Free Press, introduce me to this notion that
Post Traumatic Embitterment Disorder like PTSD, once associated with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from war conflicts, PTED is being attributed to Workplace Conflicts. Symptoms are include depression, helplessness, aggression, sleep disturbances and loss of appetite seem to be attributed to excess human response to
acute workforce stressors. This notion of embitterment is apparently no laughing matter.. As comical as it feels at the surface, at face value, '
embitterment' is farther reaching than depression.
Inspired Solutions. Please share other ideas here! Create a positive workforce to inspire and cultivate a responsible and empowered workforce.
Disgruntled Employees HR Approach.
Rise Above the Fray, Dealing with Difficult People at workTroubleshooting and navigating individual cases.
OTHER RESOURCES:
Bad BossesCreating a "Can Do" workforceGuide to Good Karma At WorkHumanizing Peer ReviewsSometimes you have to look out for Number OneWorkplace Bullying, Stress, Employment Law, and YouWorkplace Conflict Resolution
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