I believe that suffering from life circumstance is often related to an overwhelming attachment of what you feel should be happening. We really do have control of more than we give ourselves credit of, and sometimes we set unreasonable attachments to what we expect of ourselves.
Imagine the liberation of a life free of judgment, criticality, and shame.
Imagine the possibilities in a life full of opportunities, wonderful experiences, and possible dreams. It's really no fun to keep score of bad experiences, situations, unfairness, and "just" reasons for disappointments.
We can change that all, with a decisive moment of stepping into control of our experience.
The key to creative resolution is remembering that our thinking creates the seed of intentions, the intentions create the roots that give way to our flowering thoughts- whether they are prickly thistles or precious orchids.
Substitute lack for abundance, bad focus for good. Guilt for action. Focus on what you lack will continue a consciousness of lack.
Clarity and expression, gratitude and appreciation.. Deciding to shift feelings of fear, unworthiness, and lack to an active appreciation of who we are and what resources we possess is empowering to help us take stock of what is working well and write it down. What you focus on is multiplied.
We have alot more choice into our bad days and good, our bad experiences and beautiful, when we can realize the amazing powers we have to dream, to resolve, and to choose. Pain comes when we are living outside of our "vision" or expectation... OR as a transition to that better place. Pain gives us an opportunity to get back in touch with what success, serenity, and creative, empowered choice is all about.
TURN THIS EXPERIENCE AROUND ALREADY!!
Affirm an appreciation for what is working with deliberate receptiveness to alternatives, solutions, and new ways of thinking that produce a desirable outcome.
This week, I have been practicing this thoughts creates reality for some time with some very tangible results. Most tangible in my mind was that I was making unreasonable and unfair expectation of myself. I fell ill on Saturday, and have had an acute condition of sinusitis with raging fever and migraines since. Now that has been part of my story, so when I start keeping score, it is almost like asking the universe to give me more of this pain until I learn the lesson... I decided it was time to try something different.
My usual experience is I have got responsibilities, I don't have time to be sick. I would keep working, cancel nothing, and show my way through this by sheer stubbornness. I used to prize my stubborn-ness as a quality necessary for survival.. and that was actually part of the lesson I was to take to heart, and head, and health.
Stubborn is an act of holding on to something well after it no longer serves you. Persistence is an act of continuing a regular activity until it is recognized. The difference may seem subtle, but the awareness is a big part of it.
Pulmonary disfunction is the physical manifestation of an attachment to something.
I am attached to my responsibility. I am a mom of 2 beautiful kids. I work full time at a job I love. I am launching the business of my dreams. I have cared for my job meticulously. I have cared for my clients, my kids, my business, my husband, but whew I had forgotten me entirely. Since Saturday the fever and pain has rendered me able to only work and live in shifts, with much rest and liquids required. I am not working out, I am not working my program I am failing myself and my family. I don't want to fail!
Okay that is a picture into my own neurosis, shared because i am amusingly telling you a story of how I choose to make better choices. It is time to stand on my own two feet and take care of myself as part of that whole life balance thing. My new choices.. I will let this run it's course, and for the time being, set lower expectations of the workload, and instead explore realistic expectations of aligned purposeful activity. I will return to the gym when the fever subsides, and I can get my pulmonary function out of the "orange" and into the "green". This is taking care of myself and setting a vision for improvement. Stubborn would be continuing all activity until I needed steroids or rescue breathing.
Bodies need rest. I am not the exception to this rule, although I like to think I am unique.
As I end today it is with an appreciation and loving connection. So many great things are happening, despite my being sick, and with that state of mind, it is a matter of my body catching up with the new orders before the fever has done it's job and fights off the illness, and my lungs fill again to capacity, giving me the endurance to do and see and be even more.
I think another part of that lesson is that meditation throughout my week, would be immensely useful in being able to see, and breathe in wellness, rather than breathing very shallow, because who has time for the full thing.. There is an abundance-- plenty of time, money, resources, opportunities to succeed, opportunities to learn from mistakes... All is well and I will let it be.
Part of my new strategy involves absolute focus on the key areas I will continue to sustain, while trading in my type A, unreasonable self for a more patient, and creative person. If I always find solutions to what I say I am going to do, then I need to trust that the universe will provide solutions to those things I can not of my own do. There is plenty of time in the day to live, love, and serve.. Let me focus on pledging my head to clearer thinking, my heart to greater loyalty, my hands to larger service, and my health to better living for my well being, my family, my community and my world. (4H is a very balanced pledge, I still think the 4 leafed clover of lessons is where it is at!)
But enough about me! What are you doing to create beauty and purpose in your masterpiece of life? Love to hear about how and what you are doing to recognize your amazing on purpose life. :D
Dawn
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